Our first session will mostly be spent going over important information together and getting to know each other a little more. I will ask you some open-ended questions to help me understand your story as we dive into our journey, and we’ll work collaboratively to establish some goals for our time together.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) operates out of the assumption that recurring arguments about parenting, finances, and chores aren’t really about parenting, finances, and chores. Rather, these arguments typically point to deeper longings to be accepted, protected, and cared for by your partner.

In EFCT, we believe that partners have created their own cycle—a dance, if you will—that is perpetuating unmet underlying needs and disconnection. The good news is that these cycles can be changed. In couples counseling, we begin by identify this negative cycle that has kept you and your partner feeling perpetually disconnected. Then, we dive underneath anger, frustration, and resentment to discover more vulnerable feelings that were there all along: sadness, loneliness, hurt, rejection, to name a few. Once we identify these vulnerable feelings, we get to lean into the unmet needs that are driving your cycle while learning some new “dance moves” together in order to choreograph a new cycle.

In this new cycle, you and your partner are able to catch yourselves dipping into your negative cycle before the arguments becomes explosive. You’re both able to slow down and become curious about what’s happening beneath the anger and misunderstanding. Then, you’re able to recognize that deeper unmet needs are driving your behaviors while meeting each other with more vulnerability and curiosity rather than defensiveness and criticism.

The goal here is never to be a perfect couple with no negative cycles. The reality is that even the healthiest couples dip into their negative cycles at times. Rather, the goal is to realize that you and your partner both have valid needs that are going unmet, and there indeed is a way for both of you to turn toward each other for the connection you’re longing for.

My office is located near College Blvd and Quivira Rd. After you set up your first appointment, you will receive the address to my office.

I currently see clients virtually and in-person on Tuesdays (3-7 PM), Thursdays (10 AM-5 PM), and Saturdays (10 AM-3 PM).

I charge $130 for a 50-minute individual counseling session and $140 for a 50-minute couples counseling session.

Unfortunately, I do not take insurance at this time. However, I would be happy to provide a superbill at your request.